Great, glad that you resolved it!
I found what I was looking for in my notes. Normally the braided shield on the gray wire which is the power amp ground, goes to pin-4, the white center conductor of the gray wire goes to pin-1. The other end of the gray wire shield goes to the external amp ground, as you mentioned. Here are two pics, one end at the molex, the other at the external amp jack. The cable that plugs into the molex connector that runs to the pre-amp has another gray shielded wire that caries the ground and signal to the pre.
(http://img801.imageshack.us/img801/2523/molexe.jpg) (http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/801/molexe.jpg/)
(http://img401.imageshack.us/img401/1460/externalampjack.jpg) (http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/401/externalampjack.jpg/)