> My lights don't even dim when my hungry air conditioning unit kicks on.
It varies. My light dim on very modest loads. When we bought, the "inspector" suggested it indicated A Problem. Idiot. The "problem" is the house sits 500 feet from the road and power transformer. The 500 feet of standard gauge wire is overhead in plain sight.
I did go though (mostly replaced) every joint and breaker. I found other problems. Lights still dimmed on the well pump, the old furnace, the microwave, etc.
Detailed calcs of the wire, and running measurements, say there is about 0.4 Ohms in each 120V leg. So a 20A demand is an 8V drop which is a "light dim". (It is a little more complicated because it is 0.15r in each 240V leg and 0.25r in the Neutral leg, so the "other" 120V leg rises a bit; and a 240V load is much less dimmage.)
The place was wired for a trailer. I don't know how a house got here. It was here when I found it. I think it is just past the distance that the utility company would like for a house on standard wire. My neighbor is similar but his 550' line runs at *19,000V* with the transformer near the house. Solid power, but when a small branch dropped on the line last week it "shorted" the ~~20K line impedance and blew the fuse at the street. (Furnace out, cats freezing.)