When there's several preamp stages either cascaded or separated by gain pots (with or w/out a CF stage in there at some point) feeding the tone stack after all of this I get better overall control of the signal and I get a much truer rock/high gain affect that has a greater "dialing-in" range to the overall sound & tone by the stack being placed later in the circuit.I think we are are at a point where subjective preference is mixed (blend pot?!?

) with the objective reality of the circuitry. It is axiomatic that the first gain stage(s) set the tone for the amp. And, if some of the signal band is attenuated or removed early, then we can't get it back later. It's like sawing-off too much wood. We can always trim it more, but we can't add wood back later.
Guitarists may opt for a pedal or rack unit with EQ units both
before and
after an overdrive or distortion box. Typically too much bass or mids into an OD/distortion circuit results in muddy output. So it's nice to trim lows on the way in. OD/distortion inherently generates its own new set of harmonics; i.e. overtones that were not in the original signal. It's nice to have EQ after that to adjust the overtones.
In contrast, guitar amps typically have only one
adjustable EQ point*. EQ is going on at every stage, but it's hard-wired and non-adjustable except for the tonestack. The tonestack has to go somewhere. You seem to prefer cascading gain stages. They tend to produce a smoother, creamier type of OD for Blues-Rock; or OTOH hi-gain square-wave clipping, for Metal-Shred. In this topography I agree that it makes sense to put the tonestack late in the chain of gain stages, to have control over the result of the distorted output. But this relies on the signal band being pre-adjusted for you by the hard-wired R-C circuits connecting (and blocking B+ DC) in the earlier gain stages.
*Presence controls; bright switches; etc., are exceptions for additional flexibility.