> 3,50V per side
Typical PT regulation is 10%. Under load, output is 90%. 90% of 7.0V is 6.3V. I'd say this is right-on.
> is 7V usable
Yes, on a new build, 7.0V even under load would not bother me. If I decided to keep the amp forever, I "might" someday do something. Or I might not.
> Measure the winding DCR
The full drop includes primary I and R. Primary I includes plate-power consumption. It is possible to measure this, but all those turns:ratios to factor!! You could assume that primary losses are similar to secondary losses: if you compute 5% sag from secondary I and R alone, the total sag may be near 10%. Or you could just not sweat the small stuff.
+1 for the series-diode plan NOT working.
It also gives a screwy waveform which may buzz more and which will not read correctly on many meters.
> "soft start" for filaments makes a lot of sense
Only if you see a lot of failed heaters, are not running looong strings of big-and-small tubes in series strings (TV sets), AND are not mechanically abusing the tubes.
The only failed heater I have seen in recent decades was a 200AB's 6SJ7 pentode. It had high hours (though few starts) followed by a 6-foot drop into a dumpster.
IMHO, adding "soft start" will not significantly increase heater life, and adds NEW parts to fail (at the worst time).
_IF_ the heater voltage under LOAD is actually over six and a half most days and nights I might add a couple resistors.
> the beginning of the "we want it right now" mentality.
Why did the automobile explosion-engine drive-out the steam engine? Despite the dangers of hand-cranking?