On the one hand an L-pad won't sound like a speaker because it's impeadance isn't flying around like a speakers and on the other we use NFB beacuse the speakers impeadance is flying all around. ...
One way the NFB signal is coming from the total output of the amp regardless to how much power the speaker sees. The other way the NFB signal is depentant on how much power the speaker sees.
You have read something somewhere that's got you all spun around.

You have a very good point that NFB is used to mitigate the effect of the speaker impedance varying.
If you are concerned that the amp response will change due to resistive loading, you're right; it will. If you want to mimic a speaker, skip to the answer jj suggested, and use the solutions others have figured out.
There is something being overlooked: the OT is a mirror. The OT transforms the speaker impedance into a larger impedance the tubes can work against. If there are variations in the speaker impedance, the important factor is how those variations affect the operation of the output tubes. You have also noted NFB is about offsetting the effects due to variation of load impedance.
If the amp used havy NFB (like some hi-fi amps), the output stage approaches immunity to variations in the load, and the effect of speaker impedance variation is unimportant (this case is an ideal that is generally only approached in tube amps). Most guitar amps with feedback use light NFB by comparison, and there's only moderate immunity to load variation; it's still enough to control speaker flap, plus provide some other effects. But many players seek to reduce NFB to gain more "tubey flavor". Depending on who you ask, the effects of speaker impedance variation may be a good thing or a bad thing.
We're not going to be able to design a world-beating attenuator here on the forum; there's too many variables involved. Pick yer poison, and choose a solution out there. Try and see what you think. Don't expect the amp to feel/perform exactly as it would with a speaker.