Aren't you overthinking this a bit?
The warning basically says, "Don't use a relay where the long-term default position is an energized relay."
Only you know what is your most-likely setting. That said, how many thousands (millions?) of devices are out there with relays, and you don't waste time worrying if you're in one setting or the other too long.
If it's worthwhile to offer a switch, then you'll probably find you're in each setting a similar amount, if averaged over a long-enough time. Even if you think you'll be in an ON setting more often, you're not likely gonna use these in a high-current situation where the warning will matter (gotta have big current to get big heat, right?).
And if it's a big enough worry (possible noise or lifetime issues), then you'd switch to solid-state switching circuits that will outlast any relay. Of course, if you provide a socket for each relay, you can just change them if they get noisy or have questionable performance.
Yes, to the overthinking part. Comes from too many years around overworked relays (power plant), and resolving those issues.
In the late 80's, we started retrofitting much of the relay logic with PLC's, though it's practically impossible to replace them all (relays, that is). Then, almost at the same time, we started replacing our boiler controls (analog) with digital, computerized systems. That's when we found out that a large number of the relays had to remain, for current carrying capabilities.
We're now on our second generation of Distributive Control Systems, and are now able to replace relays with direct I/O that can handle the current. And, we're removing the PLC's, as troubleshooting is easier through the DCS.
My point is, I read spec sheets often, because I need to know that what I'm using as a retrofit can do the job. I recently bought some of the G6A relays from Doug, and downloaded the spec sheet for them, getting the bonus info with it, about the other models. That's what led me to working on a relay scheme for switching, with self-maintained (energized, continuously) and latched (momentary energization). None of this if probably practical. But, if I put it out (like thinking out loud), it may find it's way into something practical.
Not knowing the kind of use that these little relays may get, in signal switching applications, I go for worse case. That's when I tend to overthink. Please bear with me.
Have a good one.
Jack