Also, as you reduce the resistance "below" the 2.2uf cap as shown, the frequencies affected change because you have a high-pass filter and you're changing the R in the formula.
With the full 10K ohms in series, the "S" shaped frequency response curve is about the same as a 0.68uf cathode capacitor by itself.
Without knowing it, you're each talking about different effects.
Look at the "Cathode Bypass" picture below. It gives the graphical form of results for a tube stage set up as shown (the plate load and tube operating point matter, as well as simply Rk & Ck), roughly similar to the numerical chart. The graph is drawn assuming the cathode resistor is constant (because you picked it for a specific d.c. operating point) and the cap value is varied; however, if you hold C constant and vary R, a similar graph results. So on that point, Jack is right.
Gain stage cathode local feedback: If no cap is present (or has an infinite resistance/reactance in parallel with the cathode resistor), the gain stage in the diagram will have a gain of 29dB. With a given bypass cap, if the applied frequency is high enough to see the cap as essntially a short-circuit (0Ω in parallel with the cathode resistor), the resistor (and its local feedback effect) is bypassed, and stage gain rises to a bit over 35dB.
The -3dB point that is being presented in the numerical table is shown on this graph at ~32dB; this is the frequency when the cathode resistor is equal to the capacitor reactance. So given the 1.8kΩ cathode resistor in the diagram, the cap appears to the applied frequency as 1.8kΩ. This is in parallel to the actual 1.8kΩ cathode resistor, gives a net impedance to ground of half that (or 900Ω), and also has half the gain reduction due to feedback as the unbypassed 1.8kΩ resistor.
What 2deaf is describing, though, is a control that allows
Partial Cathode Bypass, in a variable circuit which can be dialed from full-bypass down to zero bypass. Look at the "Partial Cathode Bypass" picture below. If you could smoothly vary the impedance to ground bypassing the cathode resistor from zero up to some value, you could also smoothly vary the gain up from a low of 29dB to a max of 35dB. The easy way to implement this is 2deaf's variable resistor between the bypass cap to ground.
At full resistance, gain will be 29dB across all frequencies because the impedance through the cap to ground is very much higher than the resistance through the cathode resistor (you'll need a pot around 10x the cathode resistor value to achieve full gain reduction). As you turn the pot resistance down, the maximum gain rises up from 29dB to the black line. The bypass cap value determines what frequency the rise from 29dB to the higher gain occurs, but the series resistance of the pot determines how much gain is increased. Reduce pot resistance some more and you'll move the gain boost up to the red line. Reduce the pot resistance until it is a bit less than 1.8kΩ and you arrive at the green line (I should have drawn the green line on 32 dB to make the example easier). Lower the resistance some more to get up to the blue line, and lower it all the way to 0Ω and we're back up to a bit over 35dB as the maximum gain of the stage.
So what 2deaf's circuit does is not change the turnover frequency of the bypass (that would be done with the switched circuit shown earlier), but changes the amount of boost realized. If you use a small bypass cap, which would make the amp sound bright, it then allows you to have "no brightening" or "a little brightening" or a good amount of brightening" or "a LOT of brightening."