... Adding another stage flips the signal phase right? Why does that matter? I mean, there are amps with 2 stages, 3, 4 etc. What is the implication of this? Could it cause phase issues if you run a second amp or do i have to consider this for some reason now that i have added a 4th stage?
That Pedal Show demonstrated exactly
this issue in a video where they were using two amps. Getting the two amps out of phase sounds gutless, as most of the bass frequencies cancel.
... I believe though 2 amps on a stage with enough distance and as complex as the signal is, there is no real phase once the noise comes out
It's still a problem there. If the sound sources are widely spaced but out of phase, you'll get much of the same bass-cancellation, but if you move relative to the two sets of speakers other frequencies will come in/out of phase (depending on their wavelength). You get much fewer problems if you start with things in-phase.
... is there a consensus on whether any gain attenuation is best done before or after the cold bias stage? I need to drop a bit to just what i need, maybe with a split load or at the divider after a coupling cap. ...
That's like asking is there a consensus on whether a 0.1µF or 0.001µF is a better coupling cap value... Everything depends on specific application and what you're trying to accomplish.
Your example schematic has voltage dividers (attenuation) both before and after the cold-biased stage.
The best you can do is learn how each of the building blocks work, the impact changes will have, and then conceive an overall goal and proposed build architecture to get you there. Then breadboard/build/test and see if reality conforms with your expectations. If it doesn't, use your knowledge of the impact of various changes to alter the original plan and repeat.