... My RCA tube manual doesn't give me any information on OT plate loading and at what voltage. ...
The designer (
you) supply that by looking at the sheet to understand the tube's
peak current limits/capability for the supply voltage you've chosen (and that is within the tube's limits).
PRR addressed the issue of voltage limitation. "Ideal load" is not too critical; lots of wiggle room, and is about maximum clean output power. If you can tolerate a little more distortion and a little less than max clean output power other loads work fine. There's a bit of a different process for picking your Class AB load than a Class A load (though the real difference comes in other tubes able to work at much higher voltages).
... That may explain part of the problem that I was having, way too low of OT impedance for the setup. ... The mismatch in the output probably isn't the primary cause of the problem I was having, but it could be a contributing factor...
If you want to get to good understanding of power amp operation, you'd be wise to drop the whole "mismatch" notion (I've been fighting that battle on another forum). Other-than-ideal loading simply gives more distortion, less clean output power, or both. And the "less power" is often measurable but not (obviously) audible.