... as you turn up its all in you face right away. So for the ender I ordered a linear to try. ...
... you start the bass control from zero , 1,2,3, then after that there's no change.
For circuits where a logarithmic-increase sounds like "smoothly rising" (as in Volume controls and your Bass control), a linear taper is the last thing you want. All the action happens in the first 20-30% of rotation, then nothing.
When I said, "install it & you tell us," it was half because you'd already ordered the wrong part, and half so you'd hear the wrong-effect for yourself. It helps internalize when the apparently backwards-wording will get you in trouble.
As for the Alpha or Bourns pots, most of those are a 10% audio taper (they make others, but not many stock every audio-taper variant). A 10% taper is gonna be "opposite behavior" compared to your linear pots.
You didn't measure exactly halfway on the stock pot, but you did get a reading of ~400kΩ at 6. I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that was about 300kΩ at halfway, or a 30% taper audio pot. True-logarithmic would be 10% at half rotation, though most pot-makers fake their curve to be "close enough."
So I'd say try a 10% audio taper Bass pot. If that doesn't work, you're looking at component-value changes to trim the bass somewhere.