... it is not something that can be explained very clearly in just a paragraph or two. ...
It can be done if we focus on "What" and set aside "How/Why" for a bit.
I would like to know how to calculate values for a cathode resistor on a given preamp tube.
... how do I change the cathode resistor to neutrally bias a 12AX7 ...
PRR is right about the R-C tables.
But if you want to calculate, you need to start by specifying your supply voltage.
Next you need to specify your plate load resistor value. This is gonna be recursive (unless you use those R-C tables), because you oughta use a plate load resistor that's around 2-5x the tube's internal plate resistance. But we determine the internal plate resistance at the operating point, which we won't know until we know our plate load & cathode resistors. HINT: Real-World, we guess close to "typical internal plate resistance" then do the calcs, then adjust for a 2nd pass if desired.
Draw a loadline for the plate load resistance used at the chosen supply voltage. Throw a dart halfway between the "0v gridline" and the really-bent stuff near plate current cutoff.
Estimate the grid-volts implied by this spot on the loadline (it will certainly be between 2 existing grid-volt curves).
Make a note of the plate current at this spot on the loadline.
Volts / Current = Ohms of the cathode resistor
Any place where you say "Huh?" or don't know how to complete a step are knowledge-gaps you should identify & fill. Ask how to do them, or where to look to find out.